To My Love,

September 23, 2020September 23, 2020Leave a comment

Hi, it’s me. The girl who fell madly in love with you. Truth is, we’ve known each other and been best friends for over three years now, so it shouldn’t surprise me how quickly it happened, but it does.

You were truly a blessing in disguise. Three years ago, you helped me to get over my ex, who honestly broke me to the point that I didn’t know who I was. I didn’t know if I could ever love or be loved again. And by “help me get over him”, I don’t mean in the way a boyfriend would. I just mean that you were a friend to me when I needed it the most and you showed me just by being you and my friend that there were still good guys in the world. It was so easy for me to fall in love with you. You made it simple.

I’m writing this because I really want you to know how much you mean to me.

You mean the world to me. I hope I never let you forget it. I used to be the kind of girl that got anxious when I didn’t hear from my boyfriend for a while. I used to worry that he was out with another girl because that’s what I was used to. I can honestly say that being with you, I’ve felt more loved and less anxious than I ever have before. I’m able to trust that you aren’t going to do anything to hurt me. It’s an amazing feeling.

I appreciate you. I appreciate everything that you’ve done for me so far. I appreciate you just being here for me. I appreciate you supporting me in everything that I do.

I’m incredibly blessed to have you in my life.

You are so handsome. Every time I look at you, it makes me smile. Heck, you ALWAYS know how to make me smile/laugh even when I’m in a bad mood.

I have a really good feeling about us and the future. Thank you for allowing me to be a big part of your life.

You are so perfect for me… it’s honestly crazy. We complement each other so well. I lack a little in the common sense department and you help me with that. You help me grow as a person, and I think I can say the same thing about my influence on you. I’m so glad I can be myself around you.

I’m so proud of you. You’re an amazing teacher, and I can tell that you love what you do. I know that you are gonna do such great things with your life, and I can’t wait to be with you every step of the way.

Never stop being you.

Stay Golden.

Yours,

Emily

A Simple Girl Living in a Complex World

June 11, 2019Leave a comment

Okay, y’all, this is going to be a really rant-y blog post, but it really needs to be said.

I’m just a simple girl trying to live in this complex world around me. I know what I want. In life, in love, etc. I don’t understand why it’s so difficult for other people to be honest with themselves and others about what it is they truly want.

Here’s a run-down of what I truly want.

Career wise:

I want to graduate with HONORS from High Point University with my PharmD degree.

I want to work in an independent pharmacy and eventually save up enough money to take over and own it myself.

Then, I want to pursue my passion for helping people by making appointments with patients to help them consolidate their medications and manage their disease states.

Family wise:

I want to find the love of my life.

I want to find a passionate love that I know I want for the rest of my life.

I want to be treated well, but have a true partnership.

I want to get married and have kids.

I want a small house, preferably on a little bit of land.

I want a dog or two.

I want to live close enough to see my parents/brother pretty often. I love them very much.

I want to focus on my relationship with God and have Him in my marriage.

Financial wise:

I want to live within my means but make sure to travel when I can.

I want to save money when I can.

I want to be able to be generous with my money.

It wasn’t that hard for me to say all of that, but I know other people have a harder time with it. Although I wonder why things have to be so complex, why we have to be so wishy-washy and confused all the time, I know that it’s just the world that we live in.

My hopes are that this generation learn to be true to themselves and what they want out of life. It is important for the future.

One thing is for sure though, even when I finally get to the point that I have reached all of these goals, I will not stop to make myself a better person.

All I want is to be happy and to truly be the best person that I can be.

So here’s to that.

Stay Golden,

Emily

Being Alone But Not Lonely

November 1, 2018Leave a comment

It’s Autumn, and that means that it is “cuffing season.” Being single can be hard.

It’s hard when everyone around you is getting engaged, getting married, or starting a family. Heck most of my friends will be starting their careers in 2019 or have already done it.

It’s harder still because social media makes you feel like EVERYONE around you is doing these things. “So and so just got engaged”… *insert cute wedding pictures from another couple’s wedding*

Your brain (if you’re anything like me) is constantly nagging at you: “what’s wrong with you?”…”why are you still single?”… “you’re going to be alone forever.”

It’s hard to deal with these emotions, but it’s not impossible. It doesn’t have to be depressing, sad, or stressful to be single.

Here are my tips on how to be alone but not lonely, and how to remind yourself that you still have plenty of time to find that great love:

1. Spend time with other single people. This one is probably rather obvious, but it helps a lot. When you’re constantly hanging around couples all of the time, it’s no wonder you feel terrible. They’re great friends and you should spend time with them, but don’t forget the friends you have that are single. Hang out with them as a group to feel less lonely…and maybe even one of them will be interested in you without you realizing!

2. Spend time with family. This is probably another obvious one. For me, this meant moving back home, but for others this could just mean visiting every now and again or calling them on the phone. Your family is always going to be there, and talking to them is a great way to feel less lonely.

3. Date yourself. This one is the most crucial to me. Take yourself on dates, spoil yourself with attention and “me time.” You won’t regret giving your extra attention to your mental, physical, and emotional wellbeing.

4. Save that money. One of the perks of being single is that you don’t have to spend money on a significant other. Save your extra money for something you’ve really been wanting or start a travel fund.

5. Keep a journal. Every day, write down 3 things that you like about yourself or your life, 2 things that you would like to improve, and 1 thing that you’re thankful for. Work on the things that you need to improve and always think about the things that you like about yourself. Most of the time, if you feel confident about yourself, it’ll show through your attitude and will be attractive.

6. Don’t worry, don’t put yourself down. One of the biggest mistakes we make when we are single is complaining about how much we wish we had someone, how we don’t think we will ever find someone, or how we don’t understand why nobody likes us. First of all, someone does like you! You just don’t know it yet. You have to keep up faith that you will find someone because it’s that lack of faith that leads to the loneliness of being single. The feeling that you’ll never find someone.

7. Remember it comes when you least expect it. Live your life for you. Focus on you and bettering yourself. It will come when it’s supposed to, but until then, enjoy your life and cherish the extra time you get to spend with friends and family.

Stay Golden,

Emily

To The Girl Who Deserves a Man and Not a Boy

July 15, 20181 Comment

Hey you. It’s me… a girl who is in the same position. Numerous girls that I know are in the same position. We’re the good girls. The ones with high standards but forgiving hearts. The ones who give every guy who comes along the benefit of the doubt.

We live in the constant cycle of the boys that we have dated. We meet someone. We believe the sweet things that they say in the beginning. We feel so happy. But then, the facade that they’ve shown you diminishes a little and you begin to see their true character. They stop returning your calls and texts. They make you feel like something is wrong with you, but you still stay. You think it’s all going to get better… and it doesn’t.

Well… this is for you. This is for us.

You deserve so much more than the boys that have come and gone in your life. You deserve a man. Not only do you deserve a man, but you deserve a man who has the same values as you. You deserve to wake up next to the man who made you part of his world and makes you feel like you are his one and only (because you are). You are beautiful. You are strong. Get rid of these toxic people in your life. You deserve more than settling for someone who doesn’t treat you like the queen you are.

Don’t forget that “Queens don’t stay unless her king treats her right” – Raelynn

You deserve to be loved. You deserve the world.

Stay strong and…

Stay Golden,

Emily

To the Guys Who Think Girls Are Too Complicated

June 11, 2018June 9, 20181 Comment

To the guys who think girls are too complicated,

First, I want to start off by saying you are partially right. Girls ARE complicated. I am not here to tell you otherwise. We are complicated because no two girls are exactly the same and not all girls are going to like the same things. But… ALL PEOPLE are this way.

However, there are a few things for certain that I think I can say that will help you on your quest for the right girls.

Starting off, I’ll give you a few common standards among girls that I have talked to

Be honest. Sometimes the truth hurts, but we would much rather you tell us the truth than a lie. Besides… we always seem to find out the truth.

Be respectful. Honestly, with the whole consent thing being an issue right now, I feel like I should make this known. It is attractive when a guy is respectful. Open doors for us…ask us if it’s okay for you to kiss us or do anything else. It will go a long way.

Be kind. There is nothing better than seeing your guy be kind to someone. Help out people when you can… be a good person.

Don’t play games. I don’t care how old you are, games don’t benefit anyone. If you like someone… tell them. If you don’t like someone… tell them. It is that simple.

Next, I’m going to give you some tips on how to deal with it when a girl is so different than you are used to.

Guys, let’s be honest. Getting a gift for a female can be the hardest thing… but it doesn’t have to be. Whenever you are trying to find a gift for a girl in your life, think about all of her favorite things. Give her something unique to her likes and not something generic. For example, I like sunflowers and lilies over roses any day. However, it’s the thought that counts so any time a guy would give me any gift I would love it no matter what.

Another thing is with physical boundaries. Some girls have different physical boundaries than others. For example, some girls don’t like to be hugged or kissed in public. Don’t be afraid to ask. It is much better to ask what she is comfortable with than to just assume.

Basically, what I am trying to tell you is that no, there is not one specific way to every girl’s heart, but it is quite possible to please your lady. Just watch out for the way she responds to things, learn what she is interested in, and be a good person.

It’s not that hard to please us when you try to get to know the woman that you are with.

Good luck and…

Stay Golden,

Emily

The Nice Ones Finish Last Until…

April 20, 2018April 13, 2018Leave a comment

“The Nice Ones Finish Last.” It’s a quote we hear so often that it’s second nature to think. It’s honestly one of the most annoying things that I’ve ever heard, but it does indeed exist. The thing is, the nice ones are always going to finish last until…

They find the right person.

They find their passion (work or otherwise).

They work for it.

They believe in their abilities.

They focus on what is truly important.

They love unconditionally.

They realize what is right for them and what is not.

They forgive.

Basically, the nice ones do finish last, but they finish last on the things that are not meant for them. They finish last on the things that they don’t actually benefit from in the long run. That’s how life works. So, keep your head up… keep living life.

And as always…

Stay Golden,

Emily

My Lifelong Bucket List

March 23, 2018February 18, 2018Leave a comment

Hey loves, this is just a small list of things that I hope to accomplish in my life and be able to be the best version of me that I can be. I hope to fall in love, but more importantly, I hope to be happy in all that I do. Hope this gives you some ideas.

Travel to all 50 states.
Have and/or adopt 1-3 kids
Do everything in my power to make said kids happy
Spend quality time with my family
Get married and have a solid foundation for that marriage
Be the best Pharmacist possible
Always remember to be thankful for what I have
Save money
Get a puppy
Make time for the people that I care about
Talk to long-distance friends as much as possible and plan yearly reunions
Give back as much as possible
Do lots of volunteering
Stay fit
BE HAPPY.

Stay Golden,

Emily

My Astrology Profile: Fact or Fiction?

March 9, 2018January 15, 2018Leave a comment

Hey party people! Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not a big proponent of Astrology Signs and Horoscopes, but I figured that I would delve into a little bit of research on my sign, the ever enticing Scorpio, and see what it had to say. Hope you enjoy!

General:

“In control of their destiny” – Astrology.com

“Determined to Succeed” – Astrology.com

“Highly attuned to the vibrations of others” – Astrology.com

“Scorpios love competition in both work and play” –Astrology.com

“Oh, and we invented sexy” – compatible-astrology.com

Traits:

Tempermental

Curious

Intuitive

Persistent

Stubborn

Determined

Intense

Passionate

Clever

Perceptive

Loyal

Caring

Devoted

Love:

Compatible Signs: Pisces, Capricorn, Virgo, Cancer

“Scorpio is the most sensual sign of the zodiac.” – astrology-zodiac-signs.com

“Once Scorpios fall in love, they are very dedicated and faithful.” – astrology-zodiac-signs.com

Conclusion (My Thoughts):

Okay, so from what I’ve gathered from my little bit of research, I am very much like what a Scorpio is supposedly supposed to be like. I’m determined and passionate. I love deeply and I work hard at everything I do. I get emotional, but tend to hold it in until I can’t anymore. I’m loyal and kind. I am one of the people that my friends go to most for advice. Most of the time, when I have a ‘gut-feeling’ about something, it is right. I get suspicious. I hate lying and cheating.

There were a few things that I read that I didn’t feel sounded like me, but overall, I feel that my horoscope is pretty accurate, however, I know that it is not completely factual… So… I would say be careful with trusting horoscopes fully.

How do you feel about yours?

Stay Golden,

Emily

It’s Okay to be Single on Valentine’s Day

February 12, 2018January 4, 2018Leave a comment

Being single can be really lonely and sad, but to be honest, you should not feel bad about being single on Valentine’s Day. Come to think of it, I’ve never been in a relationship on Valentine’s Day.

It’s crazy to look back on my life and think about how most of my relationships have ended before any birthdays or good holidays for relationships. I’ve only had one relationship on my birthday and Christmas, none on New Year’s, and none on Valentine’s Day, but that’s okay!

I would rather not spend my holidays with someone unless they were serious about me, and quite frankly, most of my relationships have not been that serious.

I know that Valentine’s Day is one of the worst holidays for someone who is single, but it doesn’t have to be. Being single on Valentine’s day gives way to a drama-free day of pampering yourself, hey, take yourself on a nice date.

If you aren’t interested in having a day all to yourself, get some of your girlfriends together and have a Galentine’s day! Have a movie marathon, drink some wine, whatever your heart desires.

Now if you’re a guy reading this, treat yourself. Spend time doing what you love, whether it’s alone or with your friends. Make this day about yourself.

All in all, it’s okay to be single on Valentine’s Day. It can actually be fun.

Stay Golden,

Emily